Exhausted Because I Am Growing A Hippocampus

No but really it’s true. In my psych class right now we are studying all sorts of strange things. One project is a case report on a 7 year old girl. Now I suppose I could pick issues out left and right with the textbook by my side and I could diagnose this child with a million things. But one, morally that feels quite strange, and two… she’s 7.

So in reading pages upon pages and doing so much research I found that we have a hippocampus (okay, I already knew this exhisted, but bear with me). The hippocampus is largely in charge of aggression, emotion and memory. The hippocamps regulates emotion. So it’s kind of an important thing, right?

Well turns out it develops with you until you are about 285 when it is fully developed. So *basically* we have been making decisions with only have a brain for the first 25 years of our life. I feel like this explains so much.

All jokes aside, it was a interesting moment when I realized that we are still physically and emotionally developing. Maybe this gives excuse to our crisis break downs at 20 and how we can’t logically think through some tough areas in our life.

The hippocampus, though located in the limbic system therefore associated with emotions, memory and motivation is most highly involved with our memories.

Let’s do math. Memories + Under Developed Emotional Capabilities + Stress= 20 year old life crisis. This explains so much.

This explains how it is possible to be so emotionally exhausted. We are searching for answers our brains don’t even have yet. Working with undeveloped organs.

Even though we are adulting and kicking asses and taking names- we are still tired. It takes a lot of work to grow a hippocampus (I mean, probably. Not a scientist or anything). Just think about these things the next time you’re pissed because you don’t know why you feel a certain way or why you can’t emotionally work through something. And then blame your under developed hippocampus.

6 Ways To Get Serious About Blogging| Adultish

Adultish will be a year old in September and I am pretty excited for her birthday! In essence, I have a one year old. I spend a lot of time checking in on Adultish, cleaning her, feeding her new blogs, interacting with her through all of you guys… A blog is a commitment- at least if you want to do it right! And chances are, if you stumbled across this blog you too want to do it right! Kudos to you for doing some research, you’re ahead of the game!

1. Find a few blogs to follow that you consider to be inspiration. Personally for me this is a toss up between Damn Girl, and Kalyn Nicholson’s entire life. To do this, search for any like minded people in the Discover area and sort by DATE not by relevance. Apparently (learned this through research) the first hour your blog is live is super important. Being able to find other peoples blogs will give you a community to talk with but also it also gives you fresh perspectives on how to live your own life or things that you might want to implement.

2. Invest in your blog. I will always recommend investing in what you believe in. Invest time, invest money in books, money for a cute blogging atmosphere, and of course money for COFFEE. Cause you will need lots of it. Think about it like a class, you need to study, do some research, and spend some time digging deeper so that you can get the full picture. Blogging is the same way and if you want something you have to work for it.

3. Find your niche. Find the one thing that sets you apart from other people, and be unapologetically you about it. This could mean that you are a feminist, a straight laced Christian, or a divorced 24 year old who loves Jack and Coke and the F word (but also puppies). You don’t have to be everyone’s cup of tea- but you do need to be true to yourself.

4. Take a ton of photos! This is something I don’t usually do unless I am on vacation, but your readers want to see what you’re up to, and a picture is worth a thousand words (words you don’t have to type).Take outfit photos when you’re amazed at your style skills and take photos of your disaster room and show the world because that’s YOU being YOU and that’s exactly what people want to see.

5. Pay it forward. I will always be one to feature other bloggers on my blog because if I love them, I know you will too! Featuring other bloggers is a way to cross followers and build your own following while helping a friend out as well. I read a lot of other blogs and it helps me become a better person. Maybe I can tell you How To Kick Anxieties Ass, but another blogger can tell you About Anxiety to begin with. We all work together and each of us are able to speak to different people, on different levels, about different things. You sharing a blogger might be the way someone learns about dealing with depression, or having a positive mindset.

6. Let people know what you’re doing! Vegas Friend was completely unaware that blogging was an actual thing… and now he takes 99% of the photos you see. My friends read my blog and some even share them. It’s nice to have support. It’s also nice for friends to read a blog and get a download of your life and stay in touch. When you are on your blogging platform, go back to the search tool and look for blogs like yours- comment something true and authentic and lead them back to your blog! I have found that people who are true and authentic are always ones I feel comfortable reading.

Above all, remember to love what you are doing and be passionate about your blog. Readers sense fake people, and nobody likes a fake person! Once I truly opened up on my Coffee Catch Ups I was greeted with a lot of compassion and “omg, me too!” comments. It was nice to let the guard down and just be real about my current life happenings. I hope these things were helpful to you and that you (at least) implement one of these items into your blogging goals.

 

How To Start And Grow Your Blog| Adultish

I have been asked many times not only how to start a blog, but also how *I* particularly started and grew Adultish. For those of you who don’t know Adultish was my post-divorce-quarter-life-crisis idea. And it’s turned into this!

The first thing to start off a blog the correct way is to figure out WHY you want to start it to begin with. You need to have a reason, something that sets your soul on fire or after two months you will be over it. For me that was easy- no one was really talking about divorce the way I was. It’s seemed too taboo and I knew I couldn’t be the only one.

Find a platform- when I started Adultish I knew of WordPress and that was the end of my search. I had heard of Blogger but could never remember my gmail account credentials and it really made the choice between WP and Blogger that much easier.

Interact with other people on the site. Like, comment, follow- grow meaningful relationships. Some of my now close friends I met because of having my blog.

Don’t take things too seriously. I have gotten my fair share of mean comments and that’s when you just deny the comment and move right along with your bad self.

Don’t upload a blog without a picture. I love using Pixabay because there are a lot of Tumblr-esque photos, all free.

Make sure you are using tags, and categories.

Personalize your site. Fill out all of the information WordPress let’s you. Update your “contact me” page and make sure when you click through your site ensuring you don’t find any dead ends.

Consider upgrading to WordPress Personal. It’s not as much of an expense as their Business plan and it.. well it’s just better! You have more room to publish, you have your own domain, zero ads and it really is worth the small price.

And my last bit of advice is to start a blog for the right reason. If you want to start a blog to get rich… I dunno, maybe get a second job instead. If you want to be famous fast then pull a 2007 Brittney Spears. People can tell if you’re not being true and genuine. These bloggers pour their heart and soul into their blogs for you to read them, communicate, help, inspire and uplift.

Starting Adultish has been so huge for me! I write a ton now, I am more open and honest and all of your feedback and advice is amazing to me. If you start a blog for the right reasons, you will never regret it.

To The Bloggers That Be| Featured Blogs| May Blog A Day

Herein lies my list of blogs I run to for humor, solace, life advice, and well… to be nosey.

When I first started my blog I really didn’t know what I was doing at all and I just wanted to speak my mind about more taboo subjects. In 7 months I have just shy of 200 followers and a whole new group of friends because of it. So, here’s to you for reading, comment, liking and following.

You’re the real MVP.

Julie Cares

She’s one of the most genuine bloggers I know, so nice and very engaged with commenting and giving back. Also, super active on IG. We joke about meet ups and being intoxicated. Watch out world.

Andrea Joy over at Saving Joyfully

-She has some really great ideas on saving, cheap things to do, and tons of blogs on birthday discounts. She also may or may not be the reason I am dying to buy a nespresso machine. OOPS!

Shanda on My Anxious Heart.

We “met” in an online “Young Wives” group… you know, when I was still married. Though I’m not in that group anymore I do love to keep up with some of the girls I knew. Shanda was born with a heart condition and has some lovely anxiety (hints the blog name, Anxious Heart). She’s a newly wed, and a total sweet heart.

Alys at Alys Journals 

She is one of my newest finds but has SO MANY BLOGS and a huge following. She writes about anxiety, things she’s learned in her twenties (hi, yes can you download straight into my brain) and has some really awesome blogging tips I am not get qualified to write about.

Jacque on SheDesignedALifeSheLovedHTX

We are actual real life friends and have way more in common than what you want to know. She is allll about traveling, fashion, being the cutest blonde of life and just a down right awesome human. You my faveeee.

Do yourself a favor and check out these blogs, save yourself some money, ooh and ahh over someone elses vacay, and remember to pay it forward. Since we are talking of paying it forward I want to pick YOUR brain. For the whole month of May I will be posting everyday. Let’s call it- May Blog A Day (because I’m not the most creative person). This means I will be collabing with YOU and your favorite blogs. Let’s interview you, collab, meet at Starbys and wreak havoc.

Ways to Collab

  • Email me over at tobeadultish@outlook.com
  • Comment on this blog and let me know!
  • Join me on May Blog A Day

Or don’t and be a rebel- whatevs.

 

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