Time Management & How To Stay Alive

Here we go again with me telling you how you should live your life. As always, my disclaimer is that I am in no way qualified to teach you things, but you clicked so that must mean something! I have been thinking a lot about time management and how I am a pro at wasting all of my time. But considering I have Adultish, a full-time job, I do a lot with Vegas Friend and BK, and I am in school- I decided it was probably time to get my life together and crack down on some time management techniques.

I think first and foremost you have to analyze your time and how you are using it. Write down the moment that you wake up and then go on from that to plan out your entire week. I use “flex” time to distinguish my free time. This allows me to look at my set week and see just how much time I have to do the things I need to.

Do things right as they come up. Instead of saying “oh, I will just do this later” do it right then, it will take two seconds and you won’t forget about it. This keeps your task list relatively short since you will accomplish more.

The less liked solution is to sacrifice sleep. If you can skimp out on an hour of sleep and get 7 instead of 8 hours- but turn in an assignment, do it!

Choose wisely. If you only have an hour and you need to do 6 different things, make sure you’re choosing the most important thing.

Multitask- laundry is the best thing to multitask because you throw it in and do other things while your clothes are washing/ drying. You can listen do a podcast while you fold clothes, or a lecture while you put them away. Laundry is time managements jackpot.

Prioritize. I heard this great analogy about rocks, pebbles and sand. If you have a jar and you have rocks, sand and pebbles and they all need to fit perfectly how do you make it happen? You put the rocks, largest and hardest things to accomplish first- check them off your list and do them. Then you put the pebbles in, cross off your medium sized tasks. Then you do all the tiny tasks you had to do, your sand, and before you know it you’ve perfectly filled up your glass and all your rocks, pebbles and sand (todos) are done!

Make a list. I always make a list, for my blogs, homework, housework, my job- lists are my jam. They keep me on track and make sure I don’t forget things.

I hope you will be able to implement some of these tasks. If not you can be like my friend who said “Time management…. I think about all I need to do… and then I freak the fuck out, then cry”.

I Took A Pregnancy Test| Adultish

You know how you imagine getting pregnant… You take that pregnancy test and rainbows appear and angels fly out of the shower while you’re still in awe of that positive sign on the pee drenched stick… Yeah, that’s not exactly how this story goes.

When I was married I was getting really worried I was pregnant. I hadn’t had my period for maybe 5 or 6 weeks… I wasn’t PMSing and there was no sign of aunt flow. My then husband and I were weeks away from signing the final papers to buying our first home. I had just started a new job and the stress level was real.

I went to the dollar store and grabbed approximately nine million tests. Each negative- thank god. But then another week went by and still nothing. By this point we were both pretty freaked out. I mean, we talked about kids. We wanted kids. But not at that exact moment. I didn’t have insurance, we didn’t know how we would do it financially and we were both certain his family would have flipped out.

So after the negative tests my friends were even getting worried. They convinced me to buy another test and take it. I was going to wait until the morning because they say that’s what you’re supposed to do but I figured I was already 6 weeks with out a period and possibly pregnant, I doubt morning pee will be that much different. So I took the test and basically died when the positive sign glared back at me. There it was a light blue symbol of oh fuck that I didn’t know what to do with.

We were at his grandmas house when I took the test. I took a picture and sent him the photo on his phone. Covered the test and stuck it in my purse so his grandma didn’t find it and stroke out in the bathroom. I went into the family room and sank into the couch thinking only “Crap. Crap crap crap….”

My husband looked at his phone and went white as a ghost, looked at me, at his phone, at me again and then honestly looked like he might barf.

We made some lame excuse as to why we had to leave and the moment we got in his truck we both flipped the fuck out. Then got in an argument. Then apologized. Then I thought I might barf. We got home and barely spoke to each other. We agreed in the morning I would take another test.

All night I basically freaked out. Touched my stomach, questioned what we were doing, what kind of a mother I would be. Questioned if our marriage didn’t last what I would do. Wondered what his family would think. Wondered if I was ready for motherhood and to stay at home and raise a child. A million thoughts swirled in my mind and I barely slept.

Around 3am I couldn’t stand it anymore and ripped the pregnancy test box open to take the other tests. I waited my three minutes, knowing the results would freak me out either way.

Negative.

Not pregnant.

WHAT?! How can one test say positive and the other say negative? GOOGLE I NEED ANSWERS.

Apparently there are false positives, dye runs and all this other stuff.

I woke up my husband and told him I took the other test and that I wasn’t pregnant. His response was something like ” Thank God” then he rolled over.

I was slightly pissed at him thinking well if it said positive what would he had said? But now, that we are divorced and we never did have a kid together I am so thankful.

I love kids. But that scared the shit out of me. So I am good having a BK, or no kids, or just living with 96 cats.

How To Be A Morning Person | Adultish

I used to always think that you were born a morning person….

Or you weren’t.

But somewhere along the way I felt like I really just needed more hours in the day. Knowing there was no actual way to make this happened I realized waking up earlier than need be could score me a few extra hours in the day! This was not exactly an “easy” thing to do though. Many trail and error experiments and cuss words along the way. Now waking up early (sometimes to my dismay) is second nature to me. So here are my tried and true tips and tricks.

Reward yourself. My reward is coffee. It is the single most important thing to me (sad, I know) and that first sip tastes like heaven with a splash of hopes and dreams. Even if you don’t like coffee, you can still reward yourself. Take an extra long shower. Make yourself a delicious breakfast with all of your new found time. Watch the sunrise- reward enough.

The moment your alarm rings slap it shut. Then when you think about resetting it for a later time or scheduling the snooze option think of all the things that you could be doing if you woke up right now. Wasn’t there a reason you needed to get up early this morning? Are you sacrificing making your lunch for an extra ten minutes of sleep?

Wake up to your favorite radio station or song. I know this might seem silly but I LOVE music and it really motivates me. Sometimes I will just turn on some Celine Dion (because if you didn’t know already I am totally obsessed). True story- a few days ago I belted Celine in my car so loud that I had a physical injury. #SorryNotSorry

Go to sleep earlier. This might sound counterintuitive to “gaining” time, but personally I have the IQ of a vegetable past 8pm and I am useless anyway. Don’t go to sleep at midnight every night and expect your body to not be pissed when you wake it up 5 hours later. Don’t be a jerk to yourself, that’s just wrong.

Have a coffee date. If you skype with a friend in the morning before work, or go meet up with your bestie- you’re less likely to bail on them and you’ll actually get up!

And finally my last token of wisdom is this: weigh it out. Are you accomplishing everything you need to in a day? Are you always late and not put together? Rule number one of being an adult is not to actually have your shit together (impossible) but to strive towards it.

Wishing you luck and caffeine on your newest adventures into becoming a morning person. Adultish tip- Costco has LARGE boxes of coffee and creamer. You. Are. Welcome.

42 Ways To Lift Your Mood | Adultish

Every once in a while you can get in a funk and just need to remind yourself that there are positive things in life! I know I need to be reminded of these things too. I’ve compiled a list of ways to lift your mood for when you want to throw a tire out a window. You’re welcome.

  1. Go on a walk
  2. Get outside
  3. Make a homemade meal
  4. Read a book
  5. Listen to some jammin music
  6. Call a friend
  7. Watch your favorite movie
  8. Go to dinner with a friend
  9. Go get a hair cut
  10. Get your nails done
  11. Write your feelings
  12. Take a nap
  13. Count your blessings
  14. Clean your room
  15. Have a dance party
  16. Get ready for no reason
  17. Buy yourself a new outfit
  18. Declutter
  19. Get a massage
  20. Meditate
  21. Do yoga
  22. Excercize
  23. Cuddle
  24. Laugh
  25. Do something new
  26. Rearrange
  27. Pet an animal
  28. Take a shower
  29. Take a lot of deep breaths
  30. Compliment someone else
  31. Buy yourself some flowers
  32. Clean for 15 minutes
  33. Choose to be happy
  34. Watch cat videos
  35. Watch baby animal videos
  36. Go to the beach
  37. Take a bath
  38. Plan a vacation
  39. Find a new hobby
  40. Make a new friend
  41. Watch a funny movie
  42. Write down your goals

What are some things you do to boost your mood? A shower, face mask, meditation and a phone call are always my go to’s.

Never forget you can always choose happy.

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24 Things Learned In 24 Years

This year was funnnnn. NOT. 23 was not at all like I expected it, and yet I wouldn’t change a single thing about it. So many things happened in just the past 12 months, but I feel like I am 10 years older at the same time. Let’s recap shall we.

  • Got divorced
  • Got my license
  • Moved out
  • Got my first car
  • Got my own place
  • Went to Vegas
  • Vegas Friend and I became “Vegas Friend and I”
  • Started paying all my own bills
  • Went to Palm Springs
  • Flew to Texas
  • Advanced in my job
  • Started school again
  • Made a shit ton of mistakes
  • Started Adultish
  • Sperm Donors release

You get the picture. It’s been quite the whirlwind. But along with all of the crazy bad and crazy good lies the lessons I learned.

  1. Everything happens for a reason. Even if you know the reason or not, things have a way of working out and that’s all you need to worry about.
  2. The stigma around “divorce”is a lot worse than the actual divorce. Religion, expectations and judgements are what make divorce hard. The glares and nasty comments from people tear you to shreds, not your ex.
  3. Forgiveness is key. There is never a good enough reason to harbor unforgiveness. Nothing should steal your joy from you.
  4. Self care is essential. Take that bubble bath, read that book, eat the ice cream. Life is only fun when you break the rules.
  5. Sleep is a necessity. I am someone that can’t live on minimal sleep. I need at least 5 hours a night  on a continual basis in order to survive and not be  a basket case.
  6. Don’t let your gas light come on. There is no reason for that amount of anxiety if you can prevent it. (ps- I really should get gas)
  7. Sometimes buying the more expensive thing saves you money in the long run. This comes especially true to face care and clothing.
  8. The realization you don’t know anything. It’s kind of sobering, but also freeing at the same time.
  9. Knowing when to say you’re not okay. I used to just push through when my depression was really bad and I wouldn’t open up to anyone. But I learned that if you tell someone you’re struggling they keep an eye on you- and sometimes that’s enough to pull you through.
  10. The importance of making your bed. It sets the tone for the whole day. Plus, when you come home your place looks all sophisticated (kind of like you have your life together, except, you don’t. At all).
  11. The best way to overcome your fear is to face it head on. Be it a fear of heights or (like me) a fear of driving- the only way to get over something is to come face to face with it.
  12. Traveling is always the answer. If there’s one thing that I could change in recent years, I would have traveled more.
  13. You will never be in a situation you regret as long as you’re constantly true to yourself. I strive so hard to make sure situations don’t change who I am in my core- sometimes it works better than others.
  14. The “F” word is the best. That is all.
  15. Cooking is a gift. Some people have it, and some people do not. Like me.
  16. Not everyone is going to like you. Which works out really well, because you’re not going to like everyone either.
  17. Nurture the relationships that mean the most to you. Send flowers for no reason, buy someone lunch, say sorry when you’re a jerk.
  18. The importance of your past. Where we come from has a lot to say about where we are going. Everything we have done is because of our past- don’t shame it, embrace it.
  19. Know that people make mistakes, and they don’t know it. This one sucked to learn. EDF made mistakes. But she did’t know it, didn’t understand it’s impact, thought it was the right thing to do. Parents don’t come with instruction manuals, they are just winging it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.
  20. “Being cool” is never worth it. You should never change who you are just to fit in, or for someone to like you.
  21. Chocolate is life. Only dark chocolate though, move over milk chocolate.
  22. Wash your dishes immediately. Seriously, there is nothing worse than dishes that have sat and have hardened food on them.
  23. Deciding you don’t want to have kids is YOUR decision. And should you ever change your mind, that’s okay too.
  24. The beauty of healthy relationships. Having genuine, real, safe relationships are so vital to your growth and well being.

If you made it to the end of this— DANNNG I am impressed. Three of my fingers fell off while typing this long thing. Be sure to check out Day 1 and Day 2 of May Blog A Day.

What have you learned in your advanced age?

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19 Thoughts My Freak Self Has Every Day

From the moment I wake up to the moment I fall asleep (and wake up and fall asleep… ) my mind goes non stop! Sometimes I wonder if my thoughts are even normal. Does everyone sing a song to their coffee in the morning? Regardless, I will let you be the judge of how “rational” my thoughts actually are. Let day two of May Blog A Day commence. Enjoy!

Oh my god. Why do I always set my alarm so much earlier than what I really need? Snooze.

Ugh. Okay I’ve hit snooze 6 times. Must awaken the beast.

Okay life problem. Should I make my bed and then pee, or pee then make my bed? OR- get coffee, pee, then make bed. Maybe I just won’t make my bed.

Whats the limit of days allowed to use dry shampoo? Is two too many? Mental note- buy more dry shampoo.

IF I wore leggings today, would my boss notice? Okay, even if they noticed would I get fired?

Hmmm.. Has anyone ever been fired over leggings? I could make history!

Crap. One eyebrow looks fab, the other looks like a caterpillar. Oh well, sisters not twins.

If I leave now I won’t be late. Oh, right, still naked.

How come car heaters aren’t instant. I am going to freeze to death.

My skin is going to melt off. Always putting the heater up to the highest level. When will I learn.

Wow. I have answered all my emails, did that one project, solved world hunger probably lunch time.

WTF. It’s only 9:17.

Did I pee this morning?

Today’s the day I start drinking 7 cups of water a day. “I think if I really applied myself I could be a totally changed person by noon”. Hah. Maybe tomorrow.

Better pack up to go home. Holy crap how many cups are on my desk.

FREEDOM! Well, I still have to come back tomorrow. BUT only if I want to pay my bills… I’ll decide later.

Shower tiiiiiiime. But will I wash my hair. How much dry shampoo do I have left?

Crap I am tired. I really hope I sleep tonight.

It’s 3:02 am. I guess I will not be sleeping tonight.

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When Your Entire Life Is From Amazon| Adultish

So it’s no secret at all that California is one of the most expensive places to live. Expensive like a studio apartment where your neighbor sells crack is $900/ month. Moving out here I was 18 and going to live with my aunt and uncle rent free so I really didn’t even think about the cost of living. Even when I moved out and lived with my husband and we had a mortgage- I still didn’t think about how expensive it was because he made enough money and it wasn’t a concern. But then with the divorce and me moving out to rent a room- I was basically mind blown.

Thankfully- the place I moved into right after the divorce was furnished because I had ZERO money in my account. #DivorcedLife. BUT– where I just recently moved into was NOT furnished. I ended up searching Amazon for basically everything on my lunch breaks at work. I bought a bed that came in a box- that Vegas Friend helped me put together, as well as a bed frame that lets you have storage underneath and also makes it to where you don’t have to buy a box spring. Both of these were really affordable (other wise I would be sleeping on the floor!) and I like that whenever I do move next- neither one are too heavy for me to move. I do have a 9 cube storage thingy that I love, and a crap ton of fairy lights for ambiance. My pillows, comforter and even my keurig is from Amazon. I legit eat sleep and breathe amazon.

If there’s one thing about me it’s that I love to shop. Like it’s an actual issue and I probably need help it is what it is and I can stop anytime I want to. I have never been one to go to Nordstrom or (trying to think of another expensive store but I legit don’t know because I don’t go……) fancy stores. Ross/ Marshalls/ TJ Maxx/ Walmart- those are my JAM. But considering I didn’t start driving until I was 23, I couldn’t physically GO to those stores but once every now and again.

This is when my obsession with Amazon happened… I was at Ross one day and found the CUTEST pair of pointy toe flats NOT IN MY SIZE. Since I work at a University and walk around a lot- I am not about to wear heals. I looked the brand up on Amazon and they legit make every color imaginable and I own almost all of them now. Whooops! They are just cute, simple and comfortable and I get a surprising amount of compliments on them- and then “What? Really?!” when people find out where I got them. Hehe!

So once I knew that Amazon had most everything in the world I started to use it to my advantage. My depression medicine has one beautiful side effect- hair loss. YAY. So I went to Ulta upon recommendation. Now- here’s the thing about Ulta and I. I have never walked out of that store spending less that $300. It does not happen. It’s impossible. I legit can’t even go to the grocery store that’s in the same shopping center as Ulta because I do not trust myself. But I did go in that one day and bought Eprouvage shampooleave in, the serum and a mask. CHA-CHING. Only to realize that it’s CHEAPER on Amazon. I will say I have never been true to any shampoo/ conditioner- but this stuff is awesome. I have a good amount of my coworkers hooked on this because it smells so good. The serum in particular has helped my hair grow back. The leave in conditioner had me sold when I used it on BKs friends hair after swimming. Oh, and a bonus for you- if you love the Hempz lotion as much as I do- it’s stupidly cheaper on Amazon than in any other store I’ve ever seen.

But wait there’s more… I bought the CUTEST wireless mouse (in rose gold of course) for work and a (rose gold) mouse pad also (from Amazon duhhhh). The wired mouse I had only had a foot of wire that wasn’t tangled with every other wire and I was so close to smashing it against a wall everyday. And the metal mouse pad? Yeah- I kind of get freaked out that the fabric ones get all dirty and I like that I can lysol this.. Yes, I need help- I know.

And then maybe my favorite Amazon find is this retractable car charger thingy. It coils up so you don’t have an ugly cord just chilling and most people who ride in my car end up getting one because I tell them they can’t have mine. Lol.

I don’t know what it is with me and Amazon- but it’s probably one of my biggest life hacks ever. It’s convenient, most things are cheaper, you don’t lose receipts- AND. If you want to buy something but are waiting for it to go on sale- put it in your cart. Almost always about 3 days later it’s on sale.

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