Time Management & How To Stay Alive

Here we go again with me telling you how you should live your life. As always, my disclaimer is that I am in no way qualified to teach you things, but you clicked so that must mean something! I have been thinking a lot about time management and how I am a pro at wasting all of my time. But considering I have Adultish, a full-time job, I do a lot with Vegas Friend and BK, and I am in school- I decided it was probably time to get my life together and crack down on some time management techniques.

I think first and foremost you have to analyze your time and how you are using it. Write down the moment that you wake up and then go on from that to plan out your entire week. I use “flex” time to distinguish my free time. This allows me to look at my set week and see just how much time I have to do the things I need to.

Do things right as they come up. Instead of saying “oh, I will just do this later” do it right then, it will take two seconds and you won’t forget about it. This keeps your task list relatively short since you will accomplish more.

The less liked solution is to sacrifice sleep. If you can skimp out on an hour of sleep and get 7 instead of 8 hours- but turn in an assignment, do it!

Choose wisely. If you only have an hour and you need to do 6 different things, make sure you’re choosing the most important thing.

Multitask- laundry is the best thing to multitask because you throw it in and do other things while your clothes are washing/ drying. You can listen do a podcast while you fold clothes, or a lecture while you put them away. Laundry is time managements jackpot.

Prioritize. I heard this great analogy about rocks, pebbles and sand. If you have a jar and you have rocks, sand and pebbles and they all need to fit perfectly how do you make it happen? You put the rocks, largest and hardest things to accomplish first- check them off your list and do them. Then you put the pebbles in, cross off your medium sized tasks. Then you do all the tiny tasks you had to do, your sand, and before you know it you’ve perfectly filled up your glass and all your rocks, pebbles and sand (todos) are done!

Make a list. I always make a list, for my blogs, homework, housework, my job- lists are my jam. They keep me on track and make sure I don’t forget things.

I hope you will be able to implement some of these tasks. If not you can be like my friend who said “Time management…. I think about all I need to do… and then I freak the fuck out, then cry”.

How To Be A Morning Person | Adultish

I used to always think that you were born a morning person….

Or you weren’t.

But somewhere along the way I felt like I really just needed more hours in the day. Knowing there was no actual way to make this happened I realized waking up earlier than need be could score me a few extra hours in the day! This was not exactly an “easy” thing to do though. Many trail and error experiments and cuss words along the way. Now waking up early (sometimes to my dismay) is second nature to me. So here are my tried and true tips and tricks.

Reward yourself. My reward is coffee. It is the single most important thing to me (sad, I know) and that first sip tastes like heaven with a splash of hopes and dreams. Even if you don’t like coffee, you can still reward yourself. Take an extra long shower. Make yourself a delicious breakfast with all of your new found time. Watch the sunrise- reward enough.

The moment your alarm rings slap it shut. Then when you think about resetting it for a later time or scheduling the snooze option think of all the things that you could be doing if you woke up right now. Wasn’t there a reason you needed to get up early this morning? Are you sacrificing making your lunch for an extra ten minutes of sleep?

Wake up to your favorite radio station or song. I know this might seem silly but I LOVE music and it really motivates me. Sometimes I will just turn on some Celine Dion (because if you didn’t know already I am totally obsessed). True story- a few days ago I belted Celine in my car so loud that I had a physical injury. #SorryNotSorry

Go to sleep earlier. This might sound counterintuitive to “gaining” time, but personally I have the IQ of a vegetable past 8pm and I am useless anyway. Don’t go to sleep at midnight every night and expect your body to not be pissed when you wake it up 5 hours later. Don’t be a jerk to yourself, that’s just wrong.

Have a coffee date. If you skype with a friend in the morning before work, or go meet up with your bestie- you’re less likely to bail on them and you’ll actually get up!

And finally my last token of wisdom is this: weigh it out. Are you accomplishing everything you need to in a day? Are you always late and not put together? Rule number one of being an adult is not to actually have your shit together (impossible) but to strive towards it.

Wishing you luck and caffeine on your newest adventures into becoming a morning person. Adultish tip- Costco has LARGE boxes of coffee and creamer. You. Are. Welcome.

The Struggle Bus

I don’t know if you’ve heard of me, but I am the Struggle Bus. I am what you ride when shit gets too real to ride the Easy Train. Years ago I was the Easy Train, I was new and shiny, engine purred like a kitten and my Mercedes hood ornament was so shiny!But that was years ago. Now I don’t have a hood ornament, some ass-wipe kids took it. My seats are mostly metal, the cushions and fabric are torn off from extreme use, and age. I am kind of stinky, a mix of wet yuck and gasoline. I used to drive smoothly, but now my exhaust pipe blows black gunk and my engine might have a cat stuck in there. But, you already know who I am- who am I kidding.

I am the Struggle Bus. The “I forgot my matching shoe and to brush my hair” transit vehicle on your way to work. I drove you to the store with your last nineteen bucks. It was twenty but I hit a bump and a dollar flew out of the window. Oh, almost forgot to mention how the windows don’t roll up or down because they are cracked and have baseball sized holes in them. I think it gives me character.

I am the Struggle Bus. I am the reason you spilt a smoothie on your white pants before that meeting with your boss today. You know, the meeting where said smoothie-pants smelled up the entire 3rd floor conference room and people just looked at you as if you were a puppy who peed on the rug. I picked you up from that meeting too… except…..PS. You left your keys on the passengers seat and I have zip ties for door handles- so good luck on getting those back. I’m pretty innovative with zip ties.

I am the Struggle Bus. Everyone rides me from time to time. I am usually taking brand new moms to their baby’s first doctor appointment, you know, the one where the doctor freaks you out about everything and then you cry because your baby lost more than 10% of its body weight. Or sometimes I come and pick you up right after a night of intense drinking, I do that for a lot of people. Maybe that’s why I smell?

I know what your thinking. Why the hell would you want to ride the stinky-cat-engine Struggle Bus when you COULD ride the Easy Train? Cause the Easy Train is pretty sweet. Usually you ride it when you have more than twenty bucks for the week and clean pants. And the Easy Train is nice, actual seat cushions, and it doesn’t even stink!

But everyone gets to ride the Struggle Bus, it’s a right of passage. The type of lesson that makes taking the Easy Train feel remarkable. Rides that detour at “Get Your Life Together” and “How to Adult” Avenue. I don’t want you not to like me just because I am not “as nice” as the Easy Train- after all, he doesn’t have the life experience I do. I know I kind of stink, and I know the seats are sticky sometimes, but I have so many lessons to teach you. So please, next time you’re riding the good ole Struggle Bus, try to be appreciative of the things you do like, or think about how everyone has a turn on the Bus. It shouldn’t be viewed as a bad thing, but just another learning experience, a part of life.

Love always,

Struggle Bus.

Shit Vegas Friend Does

Soooo. I basically have the best friends ever. First there’s Mom/Ass Kicker letting me use her house as an Amazon package post office and supplying me with animal crackers and macaroni. Then there’s B who has bought me so much stuff for my “apartment”, down to deodorant and conditioner. And then we have Vegas Friend. Who comes to help me all the time with literally everything. 

He offered me his truck to help move my stuff. 

He supplies me with pepper spray. 

Buys my favorite pop tarts and always ensures there’s coffee creamer at his house for me. Ps- he doesn’t drink coffee. 

I mention a good wine once and he tries to buy 6 of them- he doesn’t drink alcohol either. 

He’s always there for late night “what am I doing with my life” phone calls. 

He listens to work drama. 

He reads all my blogs and always checks to see how the Vegas Friend ones preform. He likes to think Adultish is growing because of him. Lol. Which is notably true according to my stats. 

And then he does some crazy shit like spend his last few hours before having to go to bed to work 12 hours straight to put my bed frame up. 

Oh wait- forgot something. 

 He let’s me crash at his house and vomit when I leave work from a migraine. 

Adultish’s Crash Course in Budgeting- Dave Ramsey Style

This blog is brought to you in part by divorce, learning to survive your twenties and the inevitable mental breakdown.

I “grew up” really fast. I would say my childhood was completed by the time of 8, and then it was all about responsibility. I always had a really good cushion in life though when it came to my living situation. When I moved out I went to live with my aunt and uncle, rent free. Then I moved in with my then-boyfriend-now-ex-husband, rent free. But when I got divorced it was a whole new world of rent, car insurance, and meals for one. WHAT IS LIFE. Who knows, but these are my tips along the way.

Budget, budget, and budget again. I know a lot of concern comes from when we feel the budget we just implemented doesn’t work after a few weeks- that’s because a budget should be ever evolving. The moment there is a $5 discrepancy, or you had an emergency expense come up- it’s time for a new budget.

Along with budgeting is automatic bill pay. Be it scheduling a check to go out a few days prior to when rent is due, or signing up for automatic payment with Sprint for your phone bill.

Don’t utilize all of your available credit. For instance, if you have a credit card and the limit is $500 a month, do not put $500 on it even if you’re paying it off. Your credit score is based on the amount of credit you’re using paired with the amount of remaining credit. If you utilize all of your available credit you are “maxing out”, even if you pay off or not.

Shop around. Amazon is really tempting but the dollar store and Walmart are usually cheaper- and no need to wait for it to ship.

Also with Amazon, use your shopping cart for thinking. If you REALLY want a new car stereo- add it in your cart and let it be. One of three things will happen. One- you will decide against it. Two- it will go on sale and you will buy it. Three- you will buy it after waiting and know your decision was justified. 2/3 involve saving money.

Your health is really important. I am really NOT  the most reliable source for healthy eating as my diet is mainly coffee and leftovers- but small simple changes make a huge impact. Drink all the coffee you want- but flush it out with water. Eat (at least) three meals a day. Make at least one high in protein, one high in veggies/ vitamins/ minerals, and another just make it delicious! Meal prep and save your life. (nobutseriously) know what you like, buy it and make it. You won’t go out to eat as much, and you’ll actually eat!

Challenge yourself to 30 days of no spending. This is easiest at the beginning of a month. Pay your rent, insurance, gas- all the necessities. Buy groceries that you NEED to make the meals you will EAT. And *do not spend another penny* this is when the amazon cart trick is helpful, same with meal planning.

Look up anything and everything by Dave Ramsey. Figure out how to debt snowball- GET OUT OF DEBT. This has got to be the biggest thing ever. Once you pay off your debts you will have so much additional money left over each month- it’s almost like a second job.

Build your savings. Start with saving $1,000 and DO NOT TOUCH IT. This comes in handy when you do have automatic bill pay but not enough money in your checking’s. (Sidenote: make sure you bank doesn’t penalize you if they have to take out of your savings)

 

Finally- realize that all of these things combined help you reach your end goal in life- financial freedom… oh, and being an adult/ having your shit together.

#HandleIt

One of the most profound things I have learned in life is that you just have to to #handleit.

Is the sink over flowing with dishes and are you out of clean underwear? Handle it.

Homework due in 45 minutes, you just burnt your dinner and your hair has reached the limit of dry shampoo intake…. #handleit. impossoble things

There are so many things that I don’t want to do. For instance, I don’t want to call the lawyer about my divorce on my lunch break; but I have to. I don’t want to come home and do homework when I am dead-dog-exhausted; but I have to. I don’t want to look at my bank account, or set up an automatic savings plan, devote an entire day to laundry and meal prep; but I have to.

Being adult-ish means we have to do stuff we don’t like. We have to put our big girl (or boy, no judging) panties on and get shit done!

Because if not we would all be naked on the couch eating cheeto puffs and bon bons…

 

Let that sink in…

cheeto puff