Coffee Catch Up, Blog 2 | Adultish

If you haven’t read the last coffee catch up, you might want to or you’ll be a smidge confused with this blog. We have a lot of important and “OH MY GOD COOL!!!!” things to talk about. Shall we?

First things first, we need to talk about how this meme is 112% me.

 

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Second, Vegas Friend came home early from his stinky, smelly, camping trip. (And yes, that is Vegas Friends arm in my featured photo… that’s all you get Adultish Fam!) Hallelujah-praise-the-lord because he was D O N E. This meant my time with Tweety came to a halt and I had to go back to my house and resume life as we know it, sans hot tub. First world problems.

Work was a little more cray cray than usual, but we adulted and got stuff done. So come Thursday night I was SO FREAKING READY FOR THE WEEKEND. Since work was extra crazy with some extra hours my boss said I could leave early on Friday. I told Vegas Friend I was going to leave work early and we started talking about the weekend. One casual “we should just go to Vegas” turned into Vegas Friend getting a hotel room and…. are you even ready for this part?

TICKETS TO SEE CELINE DION.

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The excitement was so real Ass Kicker Mom had to tell me to stop freaking out or I would pass out. Accurate. Thanks again mom thing.

This meant that all my weekend GYSTing and homework HAD to be done by time we left for Vegas. Thursday night was a LATE night. But that feeling of satisfaction knowing everything was done was worth it. I went to work in a state of pure excitement and I come 11am I left and we were straight on our way to Vegas and the beautiful Celine.. drool.

I didn’t get too many pictures of the performance, because honestly I was mesmerized the entire time. But I did get the most gorgeous hoodie that says “CELINE DION VEGAS” in glitter. What’s not to love. We went to see the movie Deadpool, and omg, Ryan Reynolds is too much for me.

Later Saturday Vegas Friend went  to play slots and I went to our room to complete a nasty 93 question test for the class I’m in. Safe to say by time I finished I was ready for a drink! I got my trust Jack and Coke, which tasted just like hopes and dreams and we pressed that “repeat bet” button all night. At some point we walked down the strip and I got one of those huge 3 feet tall drinks. About two sips in I had a huge headache and ended up going back to the room and sleeping for about 5 hours while Vegas Friend played multiple rounds of solitaire.

Sunday we went to Raising Canes and had the most delicious chicken ever. Then the mandatory stop to Grand Luxe for beignets. We left Vegas to endure traffic at about 4pm and I got home about 9ish I think.

Then it was a question of going straight to bed or getting my life together. And I chose to get my life together. I worked on Adultish, unpacked from the trip, cleaned up a little, showered and did some homework. Crawled in bed at about midnight and 5am came way too soon.

But I am learning something awesome, that it’s totally possible to do EVERYTHING you want- you just have to be really smart about it. Most nights I get home about 8 or 9pm. I almost always want to just go to bed. But instead I make the conscious decision to be proactive instead of leave things for “tomorrow” (cause I never do it “tomorrow”). So the other night when I got home after work and 5 hours of sleep I put away the laundry I did, worked on the blog, did homework, cleaned out my fridge, filled out my planner, and did all the things. I am so much more productive at this point of my life than I have ever been in my life.

I also made this schedule in excel and I have found visually seeing my time is such a game changer. I use “flex” as free time, but this time is usually spent with Vegas Friend or staying at work later than usual.

I have been able to be more consistent with my goals this week of walking 10k steps and drinking water along with taking my vitamins.

Baby steps my friends… and this meme 🙂

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Death Of A Relationship| Breaking Up

I know, “death” might seem strong. But what else should we call this? The happiest time of your life? That would just be a lie and chances are if you’re reading this blog it’s because someone already lied to you, or broke your heart, and you’re going through a breakup.

It didn’t dawn on me until today that hot damn I am over my divorce.

Not that it was “easy” by any means. I still went through the phase of not eating. I layed in bed and cried, was angry, and sad, then confused. And then one day, I was over it.

First things first, you need to talk about it. Get it out of your mind, and your body. When you talk about it you will cry (I mean, not like you haven’t cried enough) and eventually all of that pressure goes away.

Get some chocolate- or chips- or something to eat that you can’t usually resist- because chances are you haven’t eaten in 5 days and no one can deny a guilty pleasure.

It’s okay to be angry. And it’s okay not to be angry. We all process things differently.

Get your mind off of it- not to an unhealthy level of course, but you still need to be a functioning member of society. Go to work. Find a new hobby. Take up running.

Consume your life with positivity. Just because this time in your life is an incredibly rough patch doesn’t mean you can’t try to find the silver lining in things. You want to overcome your break up, you don’t want it to overcome you.

Resist the incredible urge to TP the ex’s house. Maybe this belongs up with the anger phase but the burning desire to egg that house, or trash it is so intense. Resist. I’m pretty sure it’s illegal.

Ignore that nasty saying that “they best way to get over someone is to get under someone”. Sex isn’t everything. You are more than welcome to do as you please, but you need to take care of yourself. If you are still grieving- wait until you’re done. It’s not like you want to be crying while you’re trying to “get under someone”. That’s just weird.

Talk to your friends about it- but only select friends. Don’t engage in conversations that are going to pull you down and make you question if what happened was right. You need uplifting people who can tell you “you got this, you’re going to be perfectly fine. So… go wipe the snot off your face and let’s go get something to eat because you look like the Thin Man”.

Count your blessings. Like any hardship we go through it is important never to lose sight of what really matters and of how lucky we are.

Make a plan with al your extra time and focus on YOU and your growth. Cuddle extra with your fur babies, start doing Yoga to heal you from the inside out, wake up to see the sunrise. Go attempt to paddle board to see if you like it, or if you’ll drown (disclaimer, I drowned).

And above all, know that it’ll be okay. Divorce, friend break up, romantic break up… you will live to see tomorrow and the sooner you get off the floor and stop sobbing the sooner you will see that to be true.

Minimalism Tips To Follow

I am so fascinated by the idea of minimalism. And while I am nowhere near a complete minimalist, I really appreciate the concept of having less stuff, and less clutter. I do live in a pretty small apartment so I might be more “forced” into minimalism than most, but hey, let’s make the most of it and get on with the tips.

The one touch rule- when you come home put your jacket away in that moment. Don’t put it on the couch just to pick it up again and put it away, or move it to sit. Tell yourself “one touch” and just put it away. This will help your home look cleaner too- you’re welcome.

Have a spot for everything. Life is a lot easier if everything has a home, and everything is in it’s home. It’s also a lot easier to tell other people where things go if you KNOW where they undoubtedly go as well. This will help you not accidentally buy 3 pair of scissors because you don’t know where they went- they should be in their home.

One in, one out policy- adopt this policy when you buy new things. If you want a new pair of shoes- GREAT! Buy them, but get rid of another pair of shoes. We only have 2 feet and a handful of outfits we wear anyway- do you really need 756 pairs?

Regularly access your belongings- this is helpful for many reasons, mostly so you don’t buy crap you already have, but also because you will find you have things that will work in lieu of buying other things.

Have a donation bin readily available- I am a strong believer in donating, probably because Good Will is my jam. If you have a place to put items you wish to donate, you will be more likely to donate even more things!

I am no where near an extreme minimalist, but I am a realist. If you implement these tips you will find yourself not just with less stuff, but with MORE money- and who doesn’t want that?

 

 

 

 

Time Management & How To Stay Alive

Here we go again with me telling you how you should live your life. As always, my disclaimer is that I am in no way qualified to teach you things, but you clicked so that must mean something! I have been thinking a lot about time management and how I am a pro at wasting all of my time. But considering I have Adultish, a full-time job, I do a lot with Vegas Friend and BK, and I am in school- I decided it was probably time to get my life together and crack down on some time management techniques.

I think first and foremost you have to analyze your time and how you are using it. Write down the moment that you wake up and then go on from that to plan out your entire week. I use “flex” time to distinguish my free time. This allows me to look at my set week and see just how much time I have to do the things I need to.

Do things right as they come up. Instead of saying “oh, I will just do this later” do it right then, it will take two seconds and you won’t forget about it. This keeps your task list relatively short since you will accomplish more.

The less liked solution is to sacrifice sleep. If you can skimp out on an hour of sleep and get 7 instead of 8 hours- but turn in an assignment, do it!

Choose wisely. If you only have an hour and you need to do 6 different things, make sure you’re choosing the most important thing.

Multitask- laundry is the best thing to multitask because you throw it in and do other things while your clothes are washing/ drying. You can listen do a podcast while you fold clothes, or a lecture while you put them away. Laundry is time managements jackpot.

Prioritize. I heard this great analogy about rocks, pebbles and sand. If you have a jar and you have rocks, sand and pebbles and they all need to fit perfectly how do you make it happen? You put the rocks, largest and hardest things to accomplish first- check them off your list and do them. Then you put the pebbles in, cross off your medium sized tasks. Then you do all the tiny tasks you had to do, your sand, and before you know it you’ve perfectly filled up your glass and all your rocks, pebbles and sand (todos) are done!

Make a list. I always make a list, for my blogs, homework, housework, my job- lists are my jam. They keep me on track and make sure I don’t forget things.

I hope you will be able to implement some of these tasks. If not you can be like my friend who said “Time management…. I think about all I need to do… and then I freak the fuck out, then cry”.

I can’t even

I can’t shake this feeling that maybe there is more to do in life. I am not sure if it’s because I am coming fresh off of a vacation from Cancun. Maybe I am still feeling relaxed and revived from turning 24 years old- or maybe the pilot on my trip back to San Diego is releasing drugs through the air vents and making me feel all sorts of ways- regardless, here we are.

I watched a video from the one and only Kalyn Nicholson – Episode 1 of her new series Coffee Chronicles and it gave me all the feels. She explains how she feels like it’s easy to get caught going through the motions of life. You work and work, go go go and what do you have to show for it? Sure you can have money, nice things, but what happens when that isn’t enough? This video resonated with me so much as I prepare to go back into what I left at work for a week. Back to bills, make up and wearing pants.

I have learned in my 24 short years, only recently might I add, that we are created for so much more. I am not speaking religiously, or even trying to be mushy gushy- just realistic here. Why do we work so hard? Why do we want our children to receive a good education? Quality of life. And what is life if all we do is go go go?

Vegas Friend has really opened my eyes to the world outside of work, anxious thoughts and what really matters. I think it is really important to work hard, save your vacation time, travel, learn, explore- do all of the things.

I think it all just goes to say that your mindset is really what counts. You should always be grateful for what you have, and never envious for what you do have. If you really want something, work hard for it and you can achieve it. But do not get sucked into what society wants you to do. If we only focus on today, and our problems and issues we will drive ourselves into the ground.

5 Things My Friends Taught Me

Every so often you come across certain people in life who become instrumental in shaping your mindset. I wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for late night conversations and tears on my friends porches/ couches/ coffee shops. This life is a little rough at times and I’ve found sometimes you just need someone to tell you straight.

You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. When I was on my way to Cancun and explaining mine and Vegas Friends relationship to an old friend she told me “go have fun and enjoy Cancun…. and don’t ever feel like you have to explain yourself to someone”. And holy crap that was so powerful! We don’t have to justify how we feel or why we feel like that. Happiness is what matters, and if you’re happy- you’re golden.

Invest your time wisely in those you surround yourself with. This comes from another really good friend. It’s kind of like that saying “you are what you eat”- you become who you spend the most amount of time with. Make sure you are consciously deciding who to share your time with because those people end up sharing their beliefs and behaviors with you as well.

Your “wants” in life are just as important as anyone else’s. As humans in general I think we tend to put ourselves last. While I am the first person to give the shirt off my back, I have learned the difference between merely helping someone out, and downright inconveniencing yourself to help someone. While I believe in kindness and compassion- I also believe we must treat ourselves kindly as well, or else we will be so burned out and grouchy no one will win.

Failing to plan, is planning to fail. One of my good friends explained that you wouldn’t have a baby and not buy a crib, or research hospitals right? Of course not! That would be insane and you would be so overwhelmed and unprepared with that new screaming child; failure would be automatic. When big life changes happen, or even small ones that cause you to reevaluate your time you have to plan accordingly if you want to be successful.

Sometimes you are your biggest obstacle. This was huge for me. I was in Texas visiting family and Vegas Friend told me straight about my anxiety of driving. Basically I was self sabotaging, letting my anxiety and fear control a huge part of my life and hindering me from getting my license. It was one of the roughest conversations to have, but I am so grateful he talked some sense into me.

I don’t know where I would be if it weren’t for some of my closest friends and their words of smart ass wisdom. Just make sure when people are giving you advise or life stories that you LISTEN to them, instead of letting it go in one ear and out the other- you know, like we do with parents.

How To Survive On A Plane | Adultish

I am not one to blatantly complain (who am I kidding, yes I am). However, long flights have to be my absolute DEMISE. Recirculated air, wearing a seatbelt for hours on end and cups of water the size of a shot glass. I researched long and hard to make sure I would be sufficiently prepared for my trip- and boy I am glad I did!

Socks and a blanket were my token items. Two plane changes to and from, so a total of four boardings- each time I reached for socks and a blanket. I am also constantly cold, so maybe take the blanket as merely a suggestion.

I could not have survived if it weren’t for my iPad. Secret- writing this on the plane now as some stinky person is ripping farts right and left; gag. We watched movies, played solitaire, I worked on a ton of blog posts, listened to music- totally worth it.

Snacks Snacks Snacks. Did I mention snacks? They pass the time, keep you from getting hangry and hey, who doesn’t like chocolate.

Be comfortable. I wore leggings, flip flops, a camisole, T-shirt and had a zip up hoodie. This worked really well for me since I was really cold in the airports and got pretty warm towards the end of the flight. I was able to take my T-shirt off when I got too hot and instead wore my cami and jacket. Winner winner chicken dinner.

Pack for practicality. Make sure you know exactly which pocket your headphones, chapstick and socks are in. It’s uncomfortable enough to be on a plane and crouching down to get things, save yourself the trouble at know where things are.

Last but never least- know that you will eventually get off that plane. Sure, everyone stinks and it’s hot, you have to pee and hate public bathrooms (oh, right that’s me)… your flight will be over eventually and you will get to use normal restrooms and not be subjected to other peoples ass gas.

Keeping it real here.